Let Your Someday be Today.

I once heard a message by my pastor and good friend, Pete Wilson, on the danger of using the word “someday” too much. It really struck a chord with me. If you use the word “someday” often when you’re talking about your future plans, those plans probably will stay just dreams; they’ll never happen. How often have you said these things?

“Someday I’ll take more time off.”

“Someday I’ll start jogging.”

“Someday I’ll pray more.”

“Someday I’ll say I’m sorry.”

“Someday I’ll give more.”

“Someday I’ll save more money.”

“Someday I’ll follow my dreams.”

“Someday I’ll stop drinking.”

“Someday I’ll eat better.”

“Someday I’ll be a better parent.”

“Someday I’ll be a better spouse.”

“Someday I’ll be the person I know I can be.”

Most of the time, “somedays” never come. They stay out just ahead of us in the future. We become comfortable with saying, “someday.” It’s easier to say it than it is to do what you know you should.

Don’t let “someday” rule your life. Don’t let it become the norm. Fight the urge to say it over and over. Figure out how to turn “someday I’ll…” into “Today I’m…” Stop thinking that a better life is always in the future. You can take your first steps to your changing your life today. All it takes is movement forward. You don’t have to do it all in one fail swoop – just take one step. Once you do, you’ll begin to feel the momentum. The more steps you take, the clearer your path will become. The difference between “someday” being a dream and a reality is action.

You have the choice. Make today the day your “somedays” start to happen.

What’s your biggest “someday” and what’s the one step you can take today to move toward making it reality?

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How to Have a Great Week.

If 85% of our happiness is based on relationships, shouldn’t we care for them more than we do? Shouldn’t we WORK on having great relationships instead of just hoping they’ll happen?

With that in mind, here’s how to have a great week (and make someone else’s week in the process).

Step 1 – Make a list of the five most important people to you.

Step 2 – Beside their names, write one thing you can do to let them know how much you care. Maybe it’s just a phone call, a letter or an invitation to lunch. It could be an extra hug or a surprise gourmet breakfast – it’s up to you.

Step 3 – Do what’s on the list this week.

Step 4 – Enjoy the extra connection with someone you love.

I just had someone I know take this to heart. He decided to send flowers to his mother on HIS birthday. She did all the work that day (and for the nine months prior), after all! He told me his mom was so happy she cried. One little gesture made a big impact. Good stuff, huh?

So, who’s going to be on your list?

The Key to Work/Life Balance…

One thing that many people with families struggle with is work/life balance. When work pulls you away from your family, you can feel guilty. You may fear being seen as disloyal by your superiors if you spend too much time away from the office. Trying to balance both unsuccessfully can lead to a tremendous amount frustration. So, how do you do it?

It certainly does not come naturally for most people. Society doesn’t make it easy because most people around you are likely imbalanced. Sitcoms certainly don’t promote it. Music videos don’t focus on it. Reality shows don’t talk about it. It has to come from you.

So, what’s the best way to start the process of really balancing your life? Here’s what you must do in a nutshell: compartmentalize.

When you’re at work, work. When you’re at home, focus on you and your family. Too many times, we try to blend the two and it goes awry. Compartmentalizing is a learned skill but it can be mastered with practice. You can learn that at 5 o’clock, work stops and family time starts. You can learn to limit after-hours meetings. You can even learn to leave your computer and cell phone in the car when you get home. If you can’t conceive of doing this, it will take some strategy. You’ll likely need some help getting started. You’ll need to learn the art of delegation and you’ll have to begin letting some things go. Time management is a big part of it. Planning your day before it starts is also important. The only thing that all of us have in common is 24 hours. Those who do well balancing their lives manage their 24 hours well. You can, too.

This week, think about how you can better plan your day to accomplish your tasks in less time.   Here are a few points to consider:

1.  Make note of how many times a day you are distracted from your work and for how long (this can   be  eye-opening because most of us waste a lot of time each day talking, snacking, procrastinating).
2.  What tasks can you delegate to someone else?
3.  What things need to be done now and what can wait?
4.  What needs to be changed in your schedule so that you actually CAN leave at 5 p.m.?

These are just a few questions to answer to begin your journey toward success with work/life balance. The more answers you have, the closer you’ll be.

So, how can you start leaving at 5?

Don’t Stop Now…

Now that we’re past the first week of the New Year, you’re going to begin facing challenges with your New Year’s resolutions. Why? Statistically, this is the time when people begin to quit. 98% end up failing to make their resolution goals reality. I want you to be in the two percent that do…

So, think about this…

1. 90% of failure is because of QUITTING – don’t quit! Remember all of the reasons you made your resolutions. Etch them in your mind. Write them down. Read them aloud. Use them as motivation to help you remember WHY you’re doing them. If you have a good enough reason, you can do almost anything…

2. If you haven’t started on your resolution yet because you’re procrastinating, start now! Don’t become a vicitim of the Law of Dimishing Intent. This law states that the longer you wait to do something, the less likely you are to do it at all. GO. START. TODAY!

While the rest of the world seemingly toils in misery these days, you can make 2009 the best you’ve ever had. Set your goals, write them down, get started now, follow your plan and remember why you’re doing them. You CAN do it…

Are You Nice to Your Spouse???

Whereas you love your spouse deeply;

Whereas your spouse deeply loves you;

Whereas your happiness is increased when your marriage is of high quality;

Whereas the quality of your marriage is highly influenced by how you treat one another;

Whereas how you treat your spouse is a daily decision;

Then…

Shouldn’t you be nicer to your spouse than anyone else?