What If…

What if today you…

-Quit worrying and just acted instead.

-Stopped waiting for, “I’m sorry,” and said it first.

-Got up and declared “Today I’m going to do one thing that brings me closer to the person I really want to be.”

-Looked your spouse in the eyes and said, “You are the love of my life.”

-Looked at your child and said, “I believe in you.”

-Looked in the mirror and said, “I give myself the freedom to be who I am.”

What would your day look like? Shouldn’t it look like this?

Get Away from Negative and Draining People

The Bible says, “Above all else, guard your heart for it is the wellspring of life.” It’s hard to have happiness in your heart when you’re surrounded by negative and draining people. Surround yourself with a community of people who are positive, energized and balanced. If you do, you will be amazed at the difference in your state of mind. These are tough times for many, no doubt. But you can choose to wallow or climb. It’s easier to climb with people who are moving with you and not against you.

Do not underestimate the influence of those around you. Make sure those people are part of your solution, not the problem.

A Thought about Success…

I recently read this quote:

“High achievement always takes place in a framework of high expectation.”
-Jack Kinder

I started thinking about that and realized I need to set my goals higher and expand the realm of what’s possible in my mind. That means squashing doubts and fears when they pop up. Not easy, but necessary…

I’ve had lunch with a couple of people in the last few days who are accomplishing amazing things. They’ve worked very hard to get where they are, but they also believed they could do it…

What do you believe is possible for you?

Happiness…

Here’s the thought for the day…

If your happiness depends on what others think or say about you, then you are handing over an amazing amount of power to the people around you. Your happiness should be determined by you and no one else. Is it easier to be happy when others love and adore you? Sure – but does that mean you should hand it over? No. It’s up to you. Do some soul searching. What do you really want and why? What brings you true joy and why? Where do you want to take your life and why? Answer these questions and you start taking control back because now, YOU can do something about it.

This is True for Many of Us…

Living in our comfort zones has gotten most of us where we are today.

If you’re happy, good. 

if you want more out of life, you’re going to have to step out of your comfort zone.

So, here’s the question…

What are you avoiding that’s uncomfortable but will move you forward?

After you’ve answered that question, now ask this…

What is your next step is going to be?

The Art of Compromise

If you’re not very good at compromising, you’re missing out on opportunities to strengthen relationships and to make your world better than it is today. Compromise can better your relationships because it shows others that you consider their side important. It assures them you take their feelings seriously. In business, if you’ve ever closed a big money deal, you know the importance of the “give and take” in negotiations. Most deals wouldn’t be done without some compromise from both sides.

Compromise is generally a good and productive thing. However, there are things you shouldn’t compromise. Hold fast to your morals and principles. Don’t compromise your core values. Your values determine your daily actions and how you conduct your life. Don’t change who you are to satisfy someone else if you have to lower your morals to do so. No deal is worth that. The goal in compromise is to create a win-win situation. Everyone should get something of value out of the deal. But how can you get value by compromising your core values? Are you currently in a situation like this?

Ohhh… That’s the Reason…

We all fail sometimes.  After all, we’re not perfect.  But…

The biggest reason we fail isn’t a lack of talent.

The biggest reason we fail isn’t lack of a good idea.

The biggest reason we fail isn’t lack of support.

The biggest reason we fail isn’t lack of planning.

The biggest reason we fail isn’t lack of resources.

The biggest reason we fail isn’t lack of time. 

The biggest reason we fail isn’t that we CAN’T do it.

The biggest reason we fail is that we QUIT before we succeed.

Does this change the way you think about failure?

 

For Thought Over the Weekend…

These are three quotes that can change the way you think about you life…

1. Whether you think you can or whether you think you can’t, you’re right. – Henry Ford

2. If you will change, everything will change for you. – Jim Rohn

3. This is the day the Lord hath made; Let us rejoice and be glad in it. -Psalm 118:24

Really ponder these over the next couple of days and see if your thinking has changed a little by Monday…

Have a good weekend!

You’re Worried About What???

There was a day I used to stress and worry about much more than I do now.  It took a
lot of life experience to teach me that not everything in life deserves the same
amount of my attention and energy.  We only have so many hours in a day – we all
know that.  But what we sometimes forget is that when we waste our thoughts, time
and energy on something insignificant, it means we’re not spending that time on the
things that REALLY matter in life.

Author John R. Noe, among others, wrote that out of everthing we worry about, only
eight percent is real and legitimate.  The rest either won’t happen, happened in the
past or is out of our control.  That means 92 percent of our time spent worrying is
wasted.  Considering that most of the 60,000 thoughts we have each day are repeats
from the day before, that’s a tremendous amout of time we just throw away.  Almost
shocking…

So, the next time you catch yourself worrying about something, ask yourself, “Does
this really deserve all of this attention from me?”  Because we can only have one
thought at a time, redirect your mind to something positive and constructive.
Become a master crafter when it comes to using your time.  Think more about your
goals and passions, how to serve your spouse, kids, family and community and about
all you have for which to be thankful.

Just remember, God gives us a limited amount of time here on earth and you have a choice each day about how you spend your time.  Make it count…

Balance vs Imbalance in Life

If you’re searching for meaning, joy, happiness, fulfillment, quality relationships, peace in your household and real success in life, they all will be very hard to find without balance. Balance gives us strength, momentum, peace-of-mind and allows us to do things you never thought possible. For instance, look at this picture…

 
Natchez Trace Bridge (Wikipedia)
Natchez Trace Bridge, Williamson County, TN (Wikipedia)

This 155-foot-high bridge along the Natchez Trace Parkway spans 1,648 feet over Highway 96 in Williamson County, Tennessee. When it was built, the bridge received national recognition for it’s design and construction. Whether I drive over or under it, I can’t help but be amazed. It’s a very imposing structure but it has a peaceful simplicity about it as well. Rather than numerous columns, it has just one along with two huge arches that hold up the road deck. This allows for a flowing and uncluttered view of the valley it spans. There’s amazing balance in both the structural and visual function of the Natchez Trace Bridge. There were many obstacles to overcome in it’s design and construction, but with creative thought, out-of-the-box thinking and lots of evaluation, it was completed and is generally considered a huge success by both engineers and those who use it. This amazing bridge is possible because of balance…

On the other hand, here’s what can happen when there’s a lack of balance….

If you didn’t notice it before, watch it again and listen to the roar as it passes by the camera.

This huge tornado shredded parts of Weld County, Colorado, on Thursday of this week (5-22-08). It was the result of a very unstable and highly sheared atmosphere. To say it another way, the atmosphere was very imbalanced. In nature, all extreme weather is caused by imbalance. It’s simply cause and effect. It a matter of physics. It’s just the way it is…

You and I are products of God’s nature and we fit into this equation as well… With this in mind, wouldn’t you rather be a strong and balanced support for your family rather than an imbalanced monster that leaves nothing but destruction in your wake? I know I would. In what ways can you be more balanced in your life beginning today?

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