Success Needs Three Things…

It always amazes me (although it shouldn’t anymore) that when I talk to people who have made it big in anything, whether it’s career, family, money, health, whatever, they didn’t become successful just because they were smart or talented (although being smart and talented doesn’t hurt). The three biggest reasons people succeed are:

1. Their desire becomes a MUST.
2. They BELIEVE they can do it.
3. They STUDY HOW to do it.

People who make things happen study other people who make things happen. They look for patterns and clues as to what they can do to increase their chances of success. Many have mentors that guide them along the way. They almost all read books on their subject of interest. They work hard at becoming experts; becoming familiar with the hurdles and obstacles that will likely get in their way and how to creatively overcome them. They strategically plan their success on paper before they make a move. They believe failure is not an end, but a teacher of how not to do it next time. They believe in their mission and in themselves. Successful people constantly are moving forward, using momentum as a force to pound through doubts and fears. To talk with and be around people like this is very uplifting. If you want success, surround yourself with these kinds of people. Learn from them. Seek them out. Use what they know to help you along. Most are willing to share what they know. Understand that there’s a strategy to success. It takes work, knowledge, ambition, help and a belief in yourself. Put all of these things to work in your own life and watch out!

If you were to set up a lunch with someone successful just so you could pick their brain, who would it be? Better yet, pick that person and make the call today…

Another Great Quote…

If YOU will change, EVERYTHING will change for you…
– Jim Rohn

I love that quote.  First of all, it reminds me that I can’t sit and wait for the world around me to change first – I have to be the one to change my life.  I can’t wait for my friends, my family, my boss, the government, my doctor or anyone else to make it better – I have to do it.  If I want something different today than yesterday, I have to DO something differently…

I have to THINK differently.

I have to TALK differently.

I have to ACT differently.

I have to DECIDE differently.

If I don’t, then today will be much like yesterday…
This quote also reminds me that I have much more control over my life than I sometimes give credit.  Life is a gift (althought I know it’s hard sometimes).  I need to ask myself each morning, “What am I going to do with this gift today?”  Asking that question alone can change your life…

So, with that in mind, what are you going to do with your gift today?

What’s REALLY Bothering You?

This is a lesson that took me a long time to learn. Some people get it right away – I didn’t. Here’s the lesson: When you are at odds with someone and their response to you seems way out of proportion to the situation, there’s generally something else going on. If you’re not mindful of this, you can get into arguments that you shouldn’t be in. For instance…

Snow in Middle Tennessee is a rare treat so when it’s in the forecast, lots of people wait with bated breath for the first few snowflakes to fall. A few years ago, a forecast for snow didn’t pan out and I received several e-mails from disappointed viewers. But one was particularly harsh and personal. I was the worst meteorologist she had ever watched and she was never watching again! As I read, it made me angry. I started to fire back an e-mail in response but then I stopped… I tried something different. This woman was way too upset at me for what actually happened. So, I wrote back a note and told her that I, too, was disappointed with the missed forecast. I remembered how let down I felt as a youngster waiting all night for a snow that didn’t happen. Finally, I told her I appreciated her taking the time to write, whether good or bad, and that I hoped she would again one day give my forecasts a try.

Later that day, I received a note back. It was a note of apology. She thanked me for responding and went on to explain she was sorry for what she had written. She wrote a story of some very tough times she had seen over the last few days and that she was just taking out her frustations on me. Last, she told me that she would certainly watch again…

I learned a big lesson that day. What if I had fired back an angry response to her? Where would that have gotten me? I could have made the situation even worse. This is the way a lot of arguments with spouses start. Someone has a short fuse because of a bad day but the other doesn’t give a little grace. An argument escalates and by the end of it, you don’t even remember what you started arguing about in the first place. Sometimes it just takes stepping back and asking, “Is what we’re talking about the REAL problem here?”

So, watch out for those times when the response seems totally out of proportion to the situation. There’s generally something else at work here. Try to remain calm and show a little grace. This could save you, especially in your close relationships, from some very hurtful and unnecessary arguments…