Great Resources for Life Balance Success

I sometimes have people ask for resources to help them in their quest for life balance. Here are four authors that offer excellent products to help you on your journey toward creating an excellent, balanced life…

1. Career – If you are miserable in your job and wish to find work that is fulfilling, rewarding and healthy, then visit Dan Miller’s 48 Days website. Dan has several products, including his new book entitled, No More Mondays, that will walk you through finding a job that works for you. Dan is a great guy who has helped many, many people. Again, Dan’s website is www.48days.com.

2. Personal Finances – In my opinion, there’s no better way to manage your money and achieve financial freedom that staying out of debt, spending less than you make, and saving and investing for the future. There’s no one that teaches how to do that better than Dave Ramsey. In addition to his many books and other products, Dave can be heard on more than 300 radio stations across the nation. He can also been seen on the Fox Business Network every evening. Dave’s website is www.daveramsey.com.

3. Health – Most of us know that we can be much healthier by eating well and exercising. Unfortunately, most of us DON’T do that. That’s why as a nation, we’re overweight and chronically sick. A healthy body will make an amazing difference in your life (it’s hard to accomplish much in life when you don’t feel like getting out of bed). One person that will teach you how to improve your quality of life through health is Dr. Asa Andrew. His new book, Empowering Your Health, is a great way to begin changing your lifestyle immediately. His recommendations for healthy eating WILL make a difference in the way you feel physically. Dr Asa’s website is www.asaandrew.com.

4. Spiritually – Quite frankly, I find no better resource for your spiritual health that the Bible. But, another book that will help you discover your purpose in life is one of the most popular books of our time. It’s called Purpose Driven Life by Rick Warren. It will help you refocus your life, recognize your unique gifts and talents that God gave you, and realize that you’re not just some random event in a world of chaos. Rick, the pastor of Saddleback Church in Lake Forrest, CA, did a great job in crafting PDL. There are now many products offered as companions to the book to help you along in your spiritual walk. I highly recommend it. The book’s website is www.purposedrivenlife.com.

Give these resources a try and let me know what you think at charlie@thebalancezone.com. Here’s to living a balanced, healthy life!

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Balance Breeds Success

Balance Breeds Success – Take that to the bank! It’s hard to find a successful person, company or even sports team that becomes number one in its field without balance. Don’t believe me? Well, let’s examine…

I love football and living in the Southeast, I see a lot of SEC teams play. The SEC is typically considered the best conference in NCAA Division I football. At the end of each year, several SEC teams have the opportunity to compete in bowl games against teams from other conferences and more often than not win their games. An SEC team, LSU, just won the national championship earlier this month. What makes the SEC so good? Balance. Most of the SEC teams have a balance of good leadership in quality coaches, outstanding talent on both the offensive and defensive side of the ball, balanced running and passing games, and die-hard fans who support their programs. What other team in the nation wouldn’t want that? It’s a nearly unbeatable combination…

In business, the companies at the top of their fields operate by this equasion:

GM+GP+GS&M+GCC=Success

That breaks down to Great Management+Great Product+ Great Sales and Marketing+Great Customer Care=A standout company. You can have success for a time without this balanced formula but over the long haul, you’re likely to fall behind your competition and lose market share. Take away great customer care and you’re likely to loose existing customers (ever switched cell phone companies because of this?) or the best marketing in the world won’t sustain your success over the long term if your product is sub-par.  What about having a great product but no one hears about it because your sales and marketing team aren’t targeting the right potential customer? Pretty simple if you think about it…

For you, try this formula for balance:

HB+HM+GD=success.

A Healthy Body + a Healthy Mind + Good Decisions = a healthy and happy life. If you take care of your body by eating right and exercising, stay positive, optimistic and inquisitive about your world and make great decisions, it’s hard not to be successful in life. Again, sounds simple, doesn’t it?

If it’s so simple, why aren’t more teams, companies and people successful? It’s because balance isn’t a priority. Many don’t know the importance of a balanced approach or they try taking shortcuts to success. Shortcuts generally don’t work and if they do, it usually is for the short term. To lose weight and keep it off requires eating well and exercising regularly, not for just a few weeks a year. Growing and sustaining a successful business takes hard work, ingenuity and consistency. For an SEC team to win a national championship, it takes talent, practice, determination and lots of preparation. Success in anything takes some work but, most importantly, it can be done. Once you get the ball rolling and you become accustomed to the process that leads to success, it becomes easier. The point is to get started!

If you would like to put these formulas to work for you, the Life Barometer Program can help you with specific steps to get your ball rolling. Click here to read more about the Life Barometer. There’s nothing like feeling the success that comes with a balanced, smart approach to your life OR your business.

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The Power of Balance

Balance is an amazing state. In nature, it leads to peace. In business, it leads to profit. For us, to be in balance is to have peace-of-mind. If it is such a good state in which to be, why don’t we focus on achieving it more? It certainly seems that it is a lost art…

Just look around. We don’t live in a society that puts an emphasis on balance. Instead, we’re living in a 24-hour connected, hyper-stimulated, over-indulged world. Studies show that poor nutrition, sedentary lifestyles and tobacco use are responsible for 80 percent of chronic diseases. That means the vast majority of those diseases could be reduced or eliminated by living life in a healthier way. If you balance exercise with good nutrition and smart lifestyle decisions, you dramatically increase your health. This principle works in business too. If you have a great product but a lack-luster sales team or customer service, you’ll only be successful for a while. But, if you balance a great product with a great sales team, great customer service care and careful money management, watch out! Success is much easier to achieve. For farmers, the proper balance of water, temperature, sun and nutrients will lead to a successful crop. Balance is powerful.

Most of us don’t recognize that power. Therefore, we end up focusing too much of our attention on one thing while the others go ignored. Jobs trump relationships and family. Short-term pleasure trumps long-term ramifications. Big houses trump a healthy checkbook. Surgery trumps wrinkles. Doing these things are so commonplace in our society today they all seem so normal. We’re not shocked when they happen. How common are these things? Do you know someone who’s family life is a wreck? Do you know someone who’s close to losing their house because they bought more house than they could afford? How many people do you know are suffering health problems because of a bad diet and a lack of exercise? Chances are you know LOTS of people in these positions. Don’t become one of them. If you already are, take steps to change.

When you’re planning your goals for 2008 (which I encourage you to do), work on prioritizing balance. A good dose of healthy relationships, healthy finances and a healthy body amaze you in the difference it can make in your overall well-being. If you find yourself asking, “How can I do all of that?” My answer, “How can you not?” If you need ideas on how to create a life of balance, the Life Barometer Program can help. No matter how you do it, work on balancing your life so that it promotes peace instead of the “normal” stress. I know from experience that you can take your life from average to amazing using the power of balance…

Change; The underestimated action…

When I’m forecasting the weather, the most important factor I consider is the overall controlling pattern that is resulting in the daily weather. For instance, right now in the southeast where I live, the weather pattern is triggering fairly significant storm systems every three to four days. When these systems pass by, we generally have been seeing much-needed rainfall. This pattern was established back in October and will likely continue into January. This is quite a change from what we had been seeing in Middle Tennessee for much of the year; record drought conditions. Now, the rains have returned and the drought, while still here, isn’t nearly as bad. The weather conditions improved because of a fundamental CHANGE in the controlling weather pattern.

Now that we’re soon beginning 2008, what in your life do you need or desire to CHANGE to make better? Instead of writing down a quick list of resolutions, make a CHANGE list. Take a few hours and really consider what is causing you stress and anxiety. How can you reduce this in your life? What can you do to improve your relationships? How can you improve your financial situation? If there was just one change in your life you could make, what would it be? Write these things down. Then, on a clean sheet of paper for each one, write down steps you can take to make these things happen. Next, take MASSIVE action on your plan. Some people will do steps one and two but then take little or no action on the plan and then wonder why life isn’t getting any better. Change requires thought to figure out where you want go, planning to figure out how to get there and then action to move toward it. Simple program but for some reason, most of us just stay stuck where we are. Too bad. I can just about guarantee this: If you don’t change, neither will your life… Are you o.k. with that? If not, CHANGE the way you do things in 2008. If you do, you can find your life becoming amazingly better. Are you o.k. with THAT?

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When your relationships become weakening mesocylones…

What the heck is a mesocycle, you ask, and what does it have to do with relationships?!?  Great question…

There is a young couple that my wife and I know that moved away from our hometown a few years ago.  They seemed like a happy couple with a healthy marriage.  We recently received a photo Christmas card from the family but the husband is no longer in the picture (literally).  Turns out their marriage ended earlier in the year.  I was very sorry to hear that.  While I don’t know the specifics of what caused the divorce, it did make me think about something.  Here’s where the weather comes in…

A mesocyclone is a rotating storm.  Mesocyclones can strengthen into full-bore supercells which in turn can produce tornadoes.  They can be very destructive and are not taken lightly by meteorologists when they show up on a radar screen.   But today, I don’t want to focus the potential danger of mesocyclones; I want to focus on their life cycle for a moment.   

Once a mesocyclone has formed and is in the mature stage, it can only continue if the circulation stays strong.  These storms are an amazing interdependent system of wind, pressure and moisture.  The strongest ones can even overcome external forces that work to tear them apart.   But during the weakening stage, the rotation begins to slow, spread out and pull apart until eventually it dissipates. 

Relationships can be much the same – they often resist the outside negative influences of the world when they are strong but fall apart when spouses begin to pull apart from one another.  Take the following scenario…  You begin to withdraw emotionally and physically from your spouse because he or she seems to be focused on something else more than you (i.e. career, money, hobby, another person, etc).  Your spouse senses your withdrawal and coldness and responds by spending even less time with you.  In turn, you get even more frustrated and close your emotional door even more.  Now, your spouse does the same.   This keeps happening more and more;  them more closed-off you are, the more focus your spouse places on those other things that make him or her happy.   Pulling away has led to even more of what was causing you to be upset in the first place.  Eventually, you only seem to argue with your spouse during the few times you speak to one another at all.  This is a very dangerous cycle.  The more you close off, the more your spouse does too.  Eventually the relationship weakens, slows and separates just like the dying mesocyclone.  What once was a formidable force that could resist the outside negative influences of the world is now just a whisper in the wind.  Sad.  What’s even more sad is that much of this “pulling apart” of the relationship can likely be avoided, but it takes guts and it takes willingness to swallow some pride.  If you find your natural reaction is to pull away when your spouse seems to be doing the same, one of you HAS to stop and turn around or you’ll both keep going in opposite directions.  One of you has to begin running toward the other rather than continuing to run away.  Show your spouse that you don’t want to go in this direction and begin working on the real problem at hand, which is whatever is causing the hard feelings in the first place.  Far too many relationships vanish into thin air simply because one person won’t take the time, make the effort or let down their wall of pride and turn around.  I’ve found that those with the most successful marriages don’t get caught in this cycle of walking in opposite directions.  Talk about your problems.  Don’t be passive aggressive.  Share your feelings.  Don’t get defensive when your wife or husband voices concerns.  Listen and then work together for a solution.  If you need to, seek outside counsel.  This obviously wouldn’t solve all marriages but it sure would help many.

So, there’s your answer…  That’s how relationships can be like weakening mesocyclones.  Don’t let yours become one…

Where has all the balance gone? Continued…

Yesterday I wrote how, from the evidence I see, times will continue to get a bit tougher for many Americans before they get better. As individuals and as a country, we have forgotten the art of living in balance. We’re spending too much. We’re eating too much. We’re stressed-out. We’re not exercising. Many of us are living on the verge of disaster with very little room between us and the cliff’s edge.

A few years ago, I struggled with life balance. I was having a hard time figuring out how to balance my career and family time. I began working on finding a solution. Interestingly, I found my answer in something I had studied since I was a child – the weather.

All of nature is either in a state of balance or trying to achieve one. For instance, when one part of the country is abnormally hot, another is abnormally cold. When one is unusually dry (as is the case in the Southeastern U.S. where I live), another is generally wetter than normal (the southern Plains are MUCH above average for the year for rainfall. The point is, the weather is seeking it’s own balance. When balance exists, the weather turns calm. When it’s imbalanced, the weather turns stormy. All of our largest outbreaks of tornadoes in this country were the result of a highly imbalanced jetstream. It’s simply the way the weather works.

As products of nature, the same is true for us. When we lack balance in our own lives, stormy emotional times are often the result. Our marriages become strained, our health begins to deteriorate, and our jobs become struggles. Imbalance leads to trouble, just as it does in nature…

I found that when I began focusing on restoring balance into my life, my life became substantially better, almost immediately. I rearranged my schedule, I switched my priorities, I began thinking about my life and where I wanted to go. Looking back, it’s very logical – restore balance and you find peace. I used several principles of weather and followed specific steps under those principles that guided me to a balanced life. A few years ago, I took that information, wrote it down and recorded it into an audio program. I taught a class in my church, located in Nashville, Tennessee, based on the program and saw that it not only worked for me, but also for those who took the class. That’s when I decided to give it a title, expand and update it, and offer it to others. It’s called The Life Barometer. I’m very proud of it and I believe it can work for anyone who is ready to grow and make a change for the better.

If you believe that you’re not living the life you were intended to live, that there’s more to life than you’re currently experiencing, that you’re tired of doing things the same old way with the same results, then I encourage you to begin thinking about how you’re going to make it better. The Life Barometer can help. Whether you decide to use it or not, don’t stay in an unhealthy, unhappy life. It CAN be better. Life’s too short to spend it being miserable.

For more information on The Life Barometer, visit TheLifeBarometer.com.

Where has the all the balance gone?

Times are tough for many Americans right now and I believe they’re about to get tougher. The housing crisis, rising fuel prices and an election year all mean big changes for 2008. I saw a headline just today that the national debt has hit an all time high of 9 trillion. The stock market is down again off of it’s highs. The value of the dollar is dropping astonishingly fast. Oil prices are nearing $100 dollars a barrel for the first time in history. Households that heat with gas or heating oil will likely see substantial increasing in the cost of heating this winter. Retailers are calling for a tough holiday sales season. Many of the headlines are gloomy and there are more likely to come in the next few weeks and months…

Many of us are already feeling the repercussions of these events in our own households. We’re all watching the prices go up nearly daily at the gas pumps. We’re also watching prices rise at the grocery store on items such as milk, vegetables and bread. There are probably houses not too far away from yours that are about to go on the auction block due to a foreclosure.

Here’s the sad part of all of this: it’s due, in large part, to a lack of foresight and planning. We’ve forgotten as individuals and as a country how to seek balance. Balance is ALWAYS better in long term than living in extremes. We lack balance in our finances. We lack balance in our health. We lack balance in our relationships. We lack balance in our careers. It’s all leading to stress and hard times.

There is good news though… Every time this nation has been through a trying time in which things seemed like they would only get worse, at some point, we turned the corner and it got better. I believe this will happen to us again. But for that to happen, we’re going to have to do things differently in the future than we’re doing now…

It’s the same with you. If you are struggling to find peace-of-mind because you’re in massive debt, you’re struggling with your weight, you’re stressed by the lack of order in your household, you’re seeking a more meaningful job, it’s time to do something different. It’s time to change the way you’re living. It’s time to find balance, passion and peace again…  And you CAN do it…

A few years ago, I struggled with some of these same issues. But I began searching for a way out. I found my answers in something I’ve studied for years and about which I’m truly passionate; the weather. Sound interesting? I’ll have more on how I did it in tomorrow’s post…